Tina Lewis Rowe

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2011 Or 2012, What’s The Difference?

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We tend to treat the beginning of a new year as though on January 1st, something magical happens that allows us a brand new start on life,work, health, finances and relationships.  This year I’ve heard a lot of people express thoughts along the line of “Good riddance to 2011!” As though the twelve months of 2011 had it in for them. If years could talk, maybe 2011 would say to us, “Good riddance to you, you whining, ungrateful, weak-willed human, with your helpless, hopeless attitude!”

Sometimes life and circumstances bring stress, anger, disappointment, heartache and grief. As a result, a day, a week, a month or a year will always have unpleasant memories. We don’t have to be such Pollyannas that we look for reasons to be glad for the truly bad and sad things that have happened. We also don’t need to beat ourselves up unmercifully and take the blame for all of it. But, we will feel better and more able to deal with the future if we purposefully look for the aspects of even sad situations that can give us reasons to be happy or at least, less unhappy.

We can also benefit by seeing how some of our own behaviors and responses created the problems, added to the problems or kept us from responding to the problems effectively–and how we can do differently in the future.

One thing is for sure–if you’re going into the new year with the same old you to deal with all of it you probably won’t get a trouble-free year, no matter how much magical thinking you do.

*If you had habits that caused you problems last year and you haven’t replaced them with new ones, it won’t be the fault of 2012 if your life is no different when 2013 starts.

*If you won’t allow yourself to see even small increments of improvement in whatever it is that has bothered you in 2011, you will see the flaws rather than the good things in 2012.

*If you put the blame on someone else for every upset in your life or work in 2011, you probably will still be griping in 2012. The griping part is bad enough, but what’s worse is that most of us gripe instead of doing even little things to make life better for ourselves.

This is the first week of the new year. If it helps you to think of it as a cosmic event that erases the past and gives you a new chance, think that way. However, you will be better off if you don’t put so  much pressure on 2012 and put more pressure on yourself to be the catalyst for good things all year long. Happy New You!

January 1st, 2012 Posted by | Keeping On!, Life and Work, Personal and Professional Development | 4 comments


  1. Oops, I’m one of the ones who has griped about 2011. But I promise that I know I need to do something myself if I want a better 2012. Last year I made three resolutions and did two of them…that’s number one this year! Happy New Year to you.

    Comment by denisek | January 2, 2012

  2. The terrible things we have facing us as a country really started a long time ago and got worse in 2008. I don’t think they’ll get better I think they’ll get even worse. I agree that we have to do some things for ourselves in our person life but 2013 still won’t be any better for our country or the world until big changes are made and I don’t see that happening.

    Comment by watcher | January 2, 2012

  3. Hi Tina–I really like your concept of taking responsibility for your situation, even if that only means to think of things in a different light. I think that the concept of taking control of your situation, rather than feeling as if your situation controls you, is key. If nothing else, even if you try everything that you can to change your situation and you feel that it doesn’t work, you can respect yourself, and I think that is really the most important.

    Comment by Lisa M. | January 3, 2012

  4. Happy New You is a good idea. Someone who works in my office rips the week calendar page off the wall and tears it up every Friday and talks about how awful the week was. I feel like he’s ripping up his life a week at a time!

    Comment by G.O. | January 5, 2012

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